what helped me the most is to stop using thoughts that imply rejecting of control, like "what have i done", "but i want it so much", including arguing with myself and justifying my behavior. anything that would mean that i do not control the situation. similar to how you do not ague with kids about rules. i was just refusing to interact with all those thoughts, so to speak.

the second thing that helped is learning ALL my patterns, when i binge, why, what triggers me, what stops me, what makes me continue. that's the obvious one.

the third thing is to not shift my focus into the future, to not imagine anything. that really sucks up my energy and distracts. plan ahead, but don't build castles in the air. and also to not get obsessed with self-image, how cool and strong you are now. be extremely modest.

and all that, for me, creates the real control. not when you are pretending you are in control and then binge and then you are pathetic again and begging yourself. but as if you were above the gamefield.

now that i think of it, for me, it was about becoming the coolest parent for my inner child haha.

sorry for the convoluted wording, i'm not native.