I believe you. The thing about gays is all of us who have to come out end up with a good understanding of “you have to do what’s right for you.”

And you have to do what’s right for you. There’s nothing wrong with being a man when your interests skew to the fem side. You never had to change your body to be allowed to be yourself, and I’m sorry you went through it unhappily. But you have to do what’s right for you and you have to be yourself. And if being yourself means a kind of fem gay male who enjoys his male body, come out, you’re welcome to be that way just as any of us here are welcome to be gay.

That’s who you are. Talk to your doctor and start restoring the changes, because you can. And spend some time talking to proudly gay guys who are fem, who aren’t remotely fem, you’re welcome to be here. That’s all you have to do.

And i can feel the feeling of being overwhelmed coming off your question like “How do I fix this for me and how do I tell people around me” but there’s no time for being embarrassed about it which I hope is another life lesson lots of gays can help with. You can’t be ashamed of being unsure, you can’t feel awkward that this truly makes some people happy but now you know it didn’t make you happy. Just get back to the gay male path that feels right for you and like all kinds of coming out, let go the shame and be you.