Cutting contact with my Ndad was the best thing I ever did for my mental health, I just wish I had done it sooner. The first time I cut contact with him was when I was 17 for a year. Decided to let him drive me to college at 18 and there we made amends. I wasn’t prepared for how much worse he was going to become. You know what my mistake was? Forgiving him when I knew he was never going to change. He began to push the boundaries of what was okay even further after I forgave him. Because at that point he believed that I would forgive him for anything. After 3 years, I decided to cut him off again after I became sick of the constant lying and gaslighting and manipulation. I’m 21 now and couldn’t be happier with my decision. My advice? Cut him off. He showed you who he is, believe him.