My ex's right hand/arm is disabled. He's not missing anything, but his right side is half the size and doesn't function. I didn't even realize at all until about a month into dating..we were even friends for a year or so before that.

I felt so bad that I never noticed when he told me. I guess he always just seemed so capable that I never even thought about it. He never once brought it up before that or said he couldn't do something. One of my first memories of him was when he moved my bed into my apartment. He even played varsity basketball at his high school. Even until this day, I sometimes forget.

The effect he's had on me has been profound as well. He's a constant reminder to me to never take things for granted. I've always been so incredibly proud of him, regardless of how he views his adversity.