I am worried that my boyfriend (25m) of almost two years and I (30f) have incompatible libidos and sexual outlooks and I am not sure if I can maintain this.

You have mismatched libido and sextual desires.

I get that your feelings are hurt but if he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you. And that really sucks for someone who loves getting oral. Some people however love giving it and not getting it, me. Everyone is different. We can argue if he's being selfish, if he's not taking one for the team, if he needs to grow to like it all day, but truth is he doesn't so what do you do?

He's a great man in every other aspect of your life except sextually. That is your call. If this is not a breaking point than learn to deal, If mismatched libidos is a big one than let him go.

Maybe he's up to getting hormone levels checked or talking to the doctor, and if he is great! Maybe you can be frank about your unhappiness and see if he's willing to investigate but if he's not and he's fine where he is than that's just him and you have to accept it.

I have a higher libido and my DH is a much lower one so I get the fustration and hurt it feels like all you want is them and they don't want you like that. I get it.

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