Am I Wrong?

It sounds like you need therapy, not advice from people who don’t know what you’re going through. Having a baby with someone you don’t want to have. A baby with is completely different than not liking your husband because of pregnancy hormonal issues. A lot of people can’t relate. But a lot of people have advice on something they’ve never been through on “this is what I would do if I were in your shoes”…well no. They don’t know what they would do, they don’t know anything about your life. I imagine this is very traumatic for you. For the very little time I thought I was pregnant from a one night stand I was devastated. I even considered an abortion and even though I’ve always thought I wasn’t the type of person to get an abortion and if I were never in that situation and someone asked me “what would you do if you got pregnant by someone you didn’t want to be with, what would you do?” I would say “I would have the baby” but there I was considering an abortion. Everything is black and white to everyone until it isn’t. And the “I’m the only person to blame” thing is just bs and deflects from healing to become the parent you need to be for this baby. Blame does absolutely nothing for this situation. We aren’t school age children pointing fingers and casting blame for petty reasons. We’re adults and your life was altered in a tremendous way. Your feelings are valid. But that perfect idea of having babies with someone you adore rarely anyone gets that. Life has a way of screwing with us all. Plenty of people get the “perfect scenario” but it’s far from perfect. Plenty of people fake the perfect scenario. My advice is, don’t go ask people that have never been in your shoes what they would do in your shoes to come up with the solution. Do what you feel is right for you and your baby and give yourself the grace to heal from this.

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