While aces and incels both have somewhat negative attitudes and/or experiences with sex on the average (of course, exceptions exist in both cases), attitudes are the huge difference.

Aces are comfortable with not having sexual attraction, and aces that abstain from sex are comfortable about that abstinence. There is no bitterness - not originating from lack of sex for those who abstain, anyways. I find that the average ace is very respectful of people and their boundaries, especially that of women and nonbinary people.

Incels, though....are negative through and through. They are almost always misogynistic and homophobic to boot, so you can spot them from a mile away. Even allos who get sex on the regular who are misogynistic and homophobic set off red flags for me.

Honestly? Because aces and incels carry such different attitudes towards people in general, people would not "target" you for your ID over attitude. Or I hope not, anyways. But by keeping your "chill" (for lack of better phrasing), things will be fine, I think.