Anal Sex and Dominance

  1. Clean yourself well before getting down to things. As a taker, it's more comfortable that way (and less abrasive) and as a giver, you're less likely to get shit on your dick. Also, try to time it so that there's nothing coming down the pipes during the fun times.

  2. I'm a bottom/taker (though I'm also a dom... just need to make that clear since there's some painfully confusing overlap between BDSM lingo and gay lingo.) and the best way I can offer to ensure a good experience for the bottom is to go slow, use PLENTY of lube (spit doesn't work as well as you'd think.) and if you can, include some anal-play in the foreplay to loosen them up (and deposit some lubricant inside.) A rule of thumb I try to work with is to work up to three fingers. At that point it's not going to be super-painful to take most average sized cocks (and some of the larger ones too) but, and here's the point... you don't want to wait too long between taking your fingers out of the ass and then inserting your cock. Gives less time to clench down and tighten back up.

  3. I clean myself out as well as I can before the act and trying to get enough fiber into my diet also seems to help keep things tidier down there.

  4. I work it into my power-dynamics when I am able by ensuring that even though i'm taking the dick up my ass, I'm still in control. This can include leashes to yank at times, or keeping their arms/feet restrained.

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