I think there's just something hot or naughty about it which makes it really intense, and adds to the physical sensations (which are pretty great). I have always taken time to climax but one of my fastest was with a girlfriend who liked me to put it there, and swear to god first time ever in my life I popped in 3 only minutes. Usually it takes much longer. And of course I took care of her first before I got mine.

The girlfriends I've had it with did seem to enjoy it and one mention to me it was like having two orgasms at once. But they were also engaged, receiving anal and also playing with themselves for double the pleasure. I've found that partners who are only present and don't participate are not going to have a good time, or even be fun to be with. I much prefer an active partner who takes some part in her pleasure. Either through directing or telling me what she likes, or just doing it. Confidence is key.

There is a lot of buzz around anal right now, sure in part from the porn industry. But I've found many more women than you think are open to pleasures of their tush. There have been surveys done, and not to recite statistics, but the important thing to know is that women who have already tried it, who have enjoyed it, or who want to try it, makes up half of all respondents. Yes, half of women have or want to experience it. That seems like a large number to me and tells me it's more mainstream than one would initially think.

It's important to have trust and always take care of your woman. I prefer to take care of my woman first sexually, and ensure she climaxes first. But I also take care of them in general, out of the bedroom, so there is trust. And when she trusts you, some will let you know, and will tell you things like she's okay with it. Or you can put it anywhere you want. Most women will not be direct or graphic. This is the way. It is also important not to make everything about her butt. Let her know you enjoy the hole package, everything about her. Maybe not necessarily verbally, but show it.

Take your time, use plenty of lube, make sure it is a fun experience for both of you. Of the 50% not interested in anal, I always wondered how many felt that way due to terrible lovers who were not patient or careful. And then they become closed off to what many other women seem to really enjoy.