Angry!

I really debated responding to you. I've read previous posts of yours and you seem to take pleasure in tearing others down. This is a thread for partners of trans individuals and, frankly, I haven't seen you contribute any good to anyone here. As far as I've read, you are not married and have never been so it's not hard to see that you really have no clear view of what marriage really is. Marriage is not just a legal piece of paper. It is a promise, a vow, between two individuals who love one another and make the choice to commit themselves to one another, to love and support one another, for life, no matter the hardships they face. That's why it's so important to know the person you're marrying before you marry them. Even at the young age of 23, I understood this. I made vows to my wife that even now I still hold dear. My wife and I are still legally married. We are separated, yes, but legally married all the same. To even suggest dating is repugnant to me. And even if we were divorced, do you really think it wise to just jump back into the dating scene? You have obviously never been truly in love. As far as my sister-in-law is concerned, she does not have BPD, if you are referring to Bipolar Disorder. My wife and I have been together since my sister-in-law was a year old. We aren't just "somebody she knows". We're a close-knit family. If a child watched his mother or father cheat on the other and then had the one parent tell the child she did such and to keep it a secret from the other parent, who she also loves, do you not think that the child would feel some strong emotions of betrayal, hurt, depression, sadness? Well, I can tell you as I watched my own mom cheat on my dad with his best friend and subsequently divorce, leading to the breakup of my family, I felt all of those emotions and more. My sister-in-law is seeing a child psychologist as I already said. She does not have Bipolar Disorder. She is wrestling with her own feelings with the situation at hand. She loves her sister, but is deeply hurt because she "lied to her and betrayed her." The quotes I wrote above were all things my sister-in-law said. I'm trying to help her work through her feelings, while also trying to help mend the relationship she has with my wife, her sister. And thank you for implying that I need to "build some self-esteem." Again, you know nothing about me or my life. I'm not a weak individual. I'm smart, funny, kind, sensitive, loyal, etc. I've experienced pain in my lifetime that no individual should ever have to experience and I've come out the other side. But, again, your typical MO on this thread seems to be that of tearing others down, so really what should any of us expect from you?

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