Why angry people get more "attacked"?

Isn't it pretty clear? "The only tip I have is meditation and practice." That's what you gotta do. Practice, practice, practice. Metta is particularly useful for dealing with anger, vipassana will help you navigate emotional rocks in general. Neither will prevent emotions from arising, but it helps you deal with them and not be controlled by them.

My practice has helped me lots with this: I used to feel like I was being completely swallowed by my emotions, helpless to fight against them. Now it's like seeing them on the other side of a window -- they're still there, but they don't have the same immediate power over me, and I can weigh my response. If you can achieve something like that with your anger, you'll find it much easier to respond kindly to the stuff that would otherwise bother you.

I took a brief look at your post history out of curiosity, and I feel the need to tell you straight away: don't start fights just to gain "respect". Your practice is at its most effective and powerful when you work to let it work in every part of your life. Strive for mindfulness and compassion in all situations. No exceptions. Even on your deathbed. (Actually, especially on your deathbed!) Deliberately committing unnecessary harm will make it much harder for you to deal with any feelings of anger. Moreover, regular practice will help alleviate the need you feel to gain that sort of respect -- if you're committed to the Path, why would you trying to earn the respect of people who are impressed by violence?

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