I feel like there are a lot of really condescending statements about mothers in the community. I feel quite a bit of resentment from quite a few people. I don't know much about social or political theory, as many posters do. I am just taken aback by the palpable hostility. It feels personal. I'm not some right-wing woman, by the way. My personal experience of motherhood is that is has been the most wonderful part of my life. I have a first grader daughter, so I am in the thick of raising a young kid. I guess it has distracted me from my prior life of getting baked at 10 am and watching TERMINATOR and TERMINATOR 2 over and over again on basic cable. And it has distracted me from my reliable office job, working with data sets. I don't know if all of us were going to be amazing leaders or tireless activists. Some of us actually love being mothers and being close to our young kids (who will leave us behind in what feels like the blink of an eye).

This comment will probably not be well received and I get it. On some earlier thread every straight wife was commenting that she "got the only good man" and it was kind of off-putting. I guess it feels like these wives (and mothers like me) want it both ways, to complain about existing social structures while at the same time benefitting from them. So maybe I need to get over feeling hurt by what feels like hostility/resentment being hurled in my direction. But I also want to pipe up and represent those of us who think, "Not every mother thinks motherhood is this torturous burden that she was coerced into taking on."

I feel a ton of personal hostility and resentment toward weddings. I did get married, in a suburban courthouse, without witnesses. It seemed practical to get married in terms of paperwork, taxes, and medical decisions. I'm not sure it really has made things less complicated, though. Obviously, if we split up, it will regret my decision. Anyway, I wonder if my rage at the concept of weddings will give me insight into the anger people have at motherhood.

Probably nobody will read this weirdo post. At least I got my thoughts out. Sorry for taking up so much space with my free associations!