Any advice on getting over the "shame" of bottoming or blowing guys?

What helped me to get over the shame is embracing that feeling of being emasculated. I can't help that I have an urge to submit, I crave that emasculation. No matter how shameful I felt and what I told myself after cumming, I would always start craving it again the next day.

So I made an effort to distract myself from the shame, focus on something else to drown out the intrusive thoughts. When I felt it, I reminded myself that it was pointless to dwell on it. Slowly I got better at ignoring it

Having a top who's willing to give you aftercare helps get over that initial wave of shame that hits you. It's easier to feel emasculated by a man who makes you feel loved and protected than by some guy who just makes you feel used.

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