I'm probably an outlier here, but I have a pretty good relationship with my parents. I don't blame them for sending me away because I went willingly. I truly wanted help for my mental illness and I thought these programs would help me, so I blame no one but myself and the hospitals that recommended me to these places. That being said, my programs were far less abusive than most of the ones I've read about here (even though they were still pretty traumatic and I still have nightmares about them to this day). I haven't really ever told my parents about what happened to me there and the horrible things I witnessed because I just don't think it would be helpful (for me nor them). That definitely doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to yours, though. Your situation seems very different than mine