Have any of you ever gotten over being cheated on by your SO?

She went on Valproate first, maybe for ten years. It worked, and things were up and down but it was viable. When things really fucked up last year, she was put on Lithium and it SEEMED to be far far better and also more tolerable for her than the Valpro - which is the same sort of thing as the lamotrothingy I think.

The bee in my bonnet about Lithium is that it is seen as a "heavy duty" drug and the antiepileptics a "softer, try this first" drug. But there doesn't seem to be any evidence to prefer them to Lithium. There is evidence that Lithium preserves the brain - bipolar people have a much much greater incidence of early dementia. So for that reason alone i think everyone should know BP people should be on Lithium. Having said that there is about a 50 percent chance any individual responds to it.

My SO is peculiar in that she is committed to the idea that were our roles reversed she would not care about me cheating so long as I was not emotionally involved with the person I cheated with

But they aren't reversed, so we will never know. I went through this sort of thing. In fact, I think I was supposed to just say, yes, sure, fuck who you want and live in the downstairs bedroom, we'll just keep on going as ever and everything will be fine.

Even now, I am not sure she really understands what she has lost, either because her mental faculties have dimmed or because she is so caught up in her own desires that she loses sight of reality. Something similar may be going on.

You don't really know - if she is anything like my ex, then lying and deceit is second nature, at least when in an elevated mood.

I found out my ex was "living" with this guy in her phone text sext fantasy world only after trying to top up her account and seeing the text log. I don't have access to that anymore, thankfully, but once she left her interest in him waned, and I looked at the last couple of days of her account that i paid and it seems she had stopped all together. It may be that it doesn't work for her now, especially if you made her world with him and her world with you come into contact.

It is so hard, yes. I am selectively telling old friends and crying whenever I do. Last night I was cleaning up and founf our backgammon board, the thing we used so much for so long over coffee. It had been left in the rain and warped and is falling apart. I wept and wept and the kids all came and hugged me. I feel your pain. You are a good person for feeling it, and i bet she is not going through a fraction of it.

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