Do you have any help for a teenager who is confused about her religious beliefs that isn't "religion sucks, be an atheist" or "just keep praying?"

I can kinda relate when it comes to being unsure of whether or not the religion you were raised to believe in is "correct" in any way. For me, i was raised from birth in a heavy Pentecostal Christian atmosphere (just another protestant off-shoot, the kind where people run the aisles vigorously "worshipping", screaming, and waving their hands in the air) and i even had the whole "being filled with the holy ghost" and "speaking in tongues" experiences, which convinced other people that i was a true believer, but for as long as i can remember, as far back as i can remember, the stories and belief system never really made sense to me. It all felt fundamentally wrong on some very basic level, like acting as if i was filled with the holy spirit and it somehow made me violently spew off utter gibberish, (especially "talking" to God, that never made sense to me as i always assumed it was just me, talking to myself in my head) even as i was just a young boy, but i was too young or either vastly uneducated to know that i should've thought for myself and reached my own conclusions about life and what it all means. And tbh, if you were to ask any "devout" Christian what the "holy ghost" feels like, you know, "it's the greatest soul enlightening, happiness filled experience I've ever had, blah, blah, blah" and it does strangely feel pure and good, but IMHO it's just a sort of comforting lie that they tell themselves as a way of "proving" that god is real. I've always wanted scientists to strap those electrode nets to people's heads as they're experiencing "the holy ghost" just to see what they find, but for example, Atheist-"but how do you know god is real?" Pentacostal-"I've felt his presence in my heart, therefore i KNOW he's real" without any evidence, of course. If you were to ask me i would say it's some sort of crowd delusion. If 20 other people are acting insane, you begin to feel alienated for NOT acting the same way, and this is from LIFE EXPERIENCE btw. But as i got older and my curious nature got the better of me, i started leaning towards the actual, testable, facts that i found within science, and i eventually got to a point where Faith and Reason were battling for the same spot in my psyche (they are, in fact, and by definition, irreconcilable). Sure, religion gave me comfort, in believing that maybe there was something better after this life (Faith certainly never gave me any consolation) but as i grew up i realized how dangerous that is, to think that this life is only a trivial, fleeting experience, "oh don't worry, when you die everything will work out, hunky dory" and how much it really damaged me. I renounced my faith at around 18 years old, and a couple of years later, i don't regret at all. If anything it was one of the best decisions I've ever made in my entire life and i only regret not wasting my time with it and renouncing it sooner. It wasn't easy, no, and once you renounce religion, the thought of death being permanent and the incomprehensible scale of the actual universe will hit you pretty hard, and you may get terrified of those thoughts. But after you get past those thoughts? You experience our reality for it's true beauty. And it is FAR ABOVE AND BEYOND the stale imaginations of bronze age scholars who wrote the holy book, and you may just come to love it for what it really is, including the fleeting, yet evolving nature of life, like i eventually did. People think atheists are miserable and immoral as if religion has a copyright on an IDEA as broad as morality. As if the very moment i stopped carrying my faith, my moral compass completely disappeared (NOT SO) but I can honestly say that I'm much happier now that religion has no place in my life. Now, it may not be the case for you, and that's fine, it's completely your decision, but i want you to just hear my opinion based on the BS effects religion had on my life. Religion is an incredibly stagnant and ham-fisted approach towards the attempt to fully answer the questions that arise from mere existence. meaning that even if new evidence presents itself, (which is all the time) you can't go and change what's written in the holy book. (Whereas science is constantly evolving and growing) You have to change around your beliefs in your head, and it generates massive holes in your ability to reason your individual interpretation of your religion, (and any 5 members of any given religion can very easily have 5 different interpretations) with reality. And after you do that a few times, your belief system becomes unnecessarily complex and nonsensical. Whereas, NO, Science doesn't have ALL the answers (where most people love to attack it) and we may never have all the answers, but the ones we do have, are testable, repeatable, and sound. And our developing theories, are currently, in development. Claiming to have all the (currently) unanswerable, answers, just because it comforts you or sounds nice, is skipping all the hard work right to the part that reads "happily ever after". I consider, in the general psyche of the human race, Religion to be the immovable object and Science to be the unstoppable force. What i mean is that ultimately, one leads towards the masses seeking a "heaven" or "paradise" that can only be reached through death, or "peace on earth" that can only be reached through the annihilation of all other religions, just more unnecessary death. Whereas the other, has already proven itself to make technologies that only seemed possible in science fiction, apart of our reality. And imagine, if religion WASN'T dragging down progress?? Realities beyond your wildest imagination, would become REALIZED in half the time. Science has it's speed bumps, and there have been long periods of time where answers remained hidden from us, but as long as curiosity is celebrated, somewhere, someone will find the answers to questions once thought to be impossible. You're young and confused, it's okay, but to be blunt, you're wasting your time trying to reason any one religion over another. They all say "we are right, the rest are wrong" and if you dive into the details of each one, trying to find the one for you, you're going to get very confused very quickly. But If all you're seeking is comfort, then by all means look for that religion that grants you safety. But truth? Rarely is it ever comforting, unless you've accepted the scary parts. So maybe what you should really ask yourself is whether you seek Comfort or Truth. Comfort was forced upon me from youth and i can say that for me, I would've MUCH rather had the truth instead. Find your own answers, there is no "one size fits all" meaning to life. It's up to each and every individual to find out for themselves, and themselves alone. Ever hear parents talking about how harsh growing up can be in this world? But still being confused by the fact that they haven't REALLY explained it as clearly as you would like? It's because they simply can't. It's far too varied from any one person to the next, and in a sense, religion tries to give you that answer, and for some, it's enough. I'm just saying that for me, it was always going to fall short. I hope you nurture your curiosity, that beautiful human urge for seeking out answers, instead of killing it for nothing more than a fleeting moment of comfort. I'm sorry if this came off as harsh, but such is life, and when you accept that, it's really not that harsh anymore. Stop asking the boring old interpretation type questions that tired old men have been asking for a thousand years, leave that shit behind and start asking the really weird, interesting, ever evolving questions that science has no shortage of.

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