Any mixed race couples here?

Not sure if this is relevant as it is one of those "not me but.." post.

My parents are of different races and religions, they did share their difficult experience with me as I was growing up.

My dad is Chinese with a taoist family, my mum is Eurasian and a Catholic. My paternal grandmother dislikes my mother a lot, even to this day (though my grandmother was much more aggressive about her dislike back then). It was very difficult for my mother especially since she married the eldest and only son, and had to live with my grandmother even until now. I remember growing up and my grandmother used to tell me all sorts of lies about my mother to make me dislike her, which actually made me more protective of my mother.

My dad had it just a little easier, but my maternal side too was racist, and looked down on my dad for many years because he was Chinese and from a poor background (ironically my mum's family was also on welfare). Things only eased a little when my parents were way much older.

My parents, continued loving each other despite the tough pressure (especially during the times where racism was considered ok), and not severe ties with their families, even though it was really tough. My mum says that sometimes people's intentions start off as good (but the wrong way) but are too stubborn to correct it.

Thing is, if you both are serious about each other, how your family treat your partner should not affect your feelings.

Always communicate, always be understanding. But, both parties should still treat each other's family with respect and manners. If both of you are willing to take this tough path together, as long as you are committed and realistic, it will be ok.

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