I completely agree, as an INFJ who has been single my entire life. I've watched the hearts of those around me be shattered and maimed by empty relationships and seen the scars that these leave. I feel heartbroken for them, but there's a deep and resounding sense of peace in the knowing that I have not had these scars. Relationships are vulnerable, and enormous sacrifices, in a fleeting and many times unfaithful world. It's a miracle to find people who love with conviction and good intentionsc without an underlying need to use you.

At the same time, I am undeniably lonely. Because I have had no relationships before, I feel like I have missed on something fundamental and precious. I'm 20 and very few people have gotten to know me or are a part of my world. I'm constantly waiting to come across the ones who are meant to. But as a result, cultivating romantic connections is an overwhelming mystery to me, and I'm not sure how to begin, or if it's even worth the sacrifice. I came across a rare pearl of a person who I've come to love. He's sincere, kindhearted, intelligent, and I resonate with him in a way I've never before encountered. I want more than anything to express how much I care for him. But I also am so acutely aware of the sacrifice that comes along with this. Even though I have an underlying feeling that we could have something special and irreplaceable, because I've been alone for my entire life, I'm not sure if I should disrupt that rhythm. Maybe I'm tampering with the universe. Maybe it would only hurt us both. Maybe I should keep soaking in the still peace of being alone. But the thought of never getting to know this person who means so much to me is indescribably painful.