Any other wives told they ask too many questions?

Okay, I have said that many times to my husband so I'll explain my thinking. (In regards to us) I felt like he needed to use initiative and since we properly discussed it (because i was becoming resentful). He thinks before asking now. I just felt like I was the independant one making decisions and he wasnt so it was annoying. Almost like he was lazy. We have a text chat for things to do and add things to a shared calendar. Also, for me, I need quiet. I am drained from the kids and kids tv and I'm an introvert (?) And he is not lol. So sometimes I'm like please stop talking I need quiet. We sat down and I have explained if we got up early together we could chat but of a night I'm drained and can't handle it. (I also have tinnitus which affects my mood) & sensitivity. So depending on timing, there may be times better suited for the house meetings/chats.

I make decisions on my end then text him and he replies to show he has seen it. I am a sahm and student/starting own business so I just manage what I can and usually just tell him what he needs to know. In short though for me if I had to ask like he does nothing would get done around here.

I manage everything family/house related so for me it's like my brain has all this stuff going on so any chance I get I need the quiet, to finish my thoughts. I know that all sound probably horrible but I've tried to simplify reply.

In short he pays more attention to himself and when he needs to ask Qs. Some people do so out of habit when it's unnecessary. I noticed his parents are like that too, real chatty type and ask a lot of Qs. I actually have told them to use initiative many times. (Like basic things not massive) So depending on what hubby does for work etc maybe people ask him Qs a lot or his brain is busy or works in a loud environment maybe. Thinking back my dad was a little nuts sometimes, he was a chef and working with the exhaust fan all day irritated him. Just ask him what annoys him about it. It took so long for hubby and I to get to a place without me snapping and we just spoke about it calmly probably not during the Qs time lol. Now we laugh when clarifying because before I'd snap and we'd have an argument haha.

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