My best experience is as follows. My ex was a virgin like I was so that was good. We got to learn and there was no big issue that got in the way, for the most part. There definetely were physical performance issues and a bit of disapointment the first few times she was messing with it. Also, sometimes I couldn't feel her and she couldn't feel me. I think that the problems are inevitable even though we had a fiery passion for each other, being horny first-timers. Our passion and the fact that we cared about each other helped us make it great.

Ultimately, it comes down to each others willingess to give and accept. There are aspects in people that need to be tolerated. Penis size, face, height, breasts, butt, etc. those are not that. The body should be loved for what it is, with exceptions like don't love that tumor thats gonna kill you.

Disclaimer. My thoughts on marriage, for those who see it as the goal of a gf/bf relatiomship.

I think that perhaps I should have saved myself for someone who was willing to match my life because I think that level of intense physical attraction that drives two people to love the "lacking" bodies will be hard to reproduce. I'm worn from my experiences. My heart has changed even though my mind knows that it's technically not an issue, I'm not sure I can return to the innocence that let the my ex and I give our all. I think it's funny that I make such a big deal out of the sex situation when the sex was great but the love ultimately failed.

So I say this, if you want a spouse someday, try not to accumulate baggage (sexual, emotional, or otherwise) so that you can give yourselves freely to each other and wholly accept each other. The hard part will be to love and stay with each other, not the sex part. If sex can be good in a relationship where the love ends, then it ought to be a drop in the bucket for those maintaining their love. Lastly, even if there's baggage it's not the end. Others have told their stories which have shown it to be possible.