Sorry if I came off as rude, that wasn't my intention. I'll try and provide some context.

Being financially stable and being able to pay your own bills is definitely what most people (men and women) would consider to be important in a partner, I would say.

(anyone who says financial stability doesn't matter to them is not being honest, in my opinion).

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this is all about economics

Of course not. It's about wanting direction in life. When I say potential, I think what I really mean, is someone who has the potential to be driven in what they do. Someone who is passionate about something, and wants meaning for themselves. Who wants to be the best they can be at what they love to do.

Not a potato couch who spends time on video games or chilling with his friends over you.

I think because I'm ambitious myself, I value that in a man. I make more than my boyfriend right now, but he's very ambitious and passionate about his vocation in life, and I highly respect that. He also is very honest and authentic, we encourage each other in our dreams and ambitions and what we wish to accomplish as individuals.

I see your point, it's unfair to judge based on my own standards. People have different values in life. Some value art, others work, others integrity, others music. My values include ambition and honesty.

I'm still 25, I have a lot of growing up to do. But I still shudder to think that my younger self settled for men that did not meet my standards of what would make me happy.