This may be a little anecdotal, also from a guy, but it's not necessarily that I think women don't think I want to feel desired, but rather the displays of desire can be lopsided.

I rarely do the same date twice, even if it's a new girl, I try not to reuse a date from a previous girl. I try to keep it interesting and come up with something new every time depending on the interests of the girl. I'm not really a movie and dinner kinda guy. So thought generally goes into what I do with the girl. But ask me how many times has a girl asked me out, planned an interesting date and took the lead on the whole thing? I'd have to say zero. So i'm thinking, individualizing, planning, listening carefully to the little things, piecing stuff together (Piece A and B together and you know she likes Y even though she didn't outright say she did) scheming and doing. While what I get are seemingly basic non-individualized displays. Cuddling, saying sweet stuff, etc. Also seemingly like I am expected to listen carefully to everything they say, but everything I say is ignored and generic display is outputted, as if all males only desire the same basic displays. No, "Keep saturday open, Ima take you to a museum" or anything. Even if I had to pay, it at least shows she was paying attention. Can ya see the discrepancy? I am not saying those are bad things, I enjoy em, and they do make me feel desired, and appreciate it. But it can be a little disappointing when you are displaying your desire for a person in an individualized way catered to THEIR likes as an individual, to get returning displays of desire in basic, vanilla, everyone would enjoy it ways.

After awhile, it seems like I am suppose to be the one with desire, the one always doing the work and I just get thrown a bone, not desire. So the displays you do get, don't seem genuine, but moreso a bone thrown at you as a "good job, I will stick around" than affection.

I may be off base, but when displays of desire lack creativity, it lacks affection. And I have never been given a creative display of affection, only ever done it. At a point, it feels like I were to just take you to McDonald's, give you a 3 dollar limit, and except ya to be swooning hardcore over me cause I took you to McDonald's.

So it's not that a women has never shown desire, but it is done in a way that can come off as, you are generic human male 3,23,001,451, here is some generic desire, and not I desire Overexplains_Everyth. I desire YOU, not just a male human. Ya feel like you are just the best right now, and why put work in when something better may come along, so generic desire to appease. I know, that probably isn't the case, but when zero works is put into it, can make ya feel like they are just buying time until the next thing and not actually into it, long term. Then I lose any motivation to give a fuck, since in my head, you don't seem to be in it for keeps.

Like I said, probably anecdotal, but the issue seems to be more about the willingness to show desire for the individual, and not just simply giving affection. I'd probably fall in love right then and there if a chick went "I found this museum ya may be interested in, wanna go saturday?" Ya, cuddling is great, but the museum thing is what shows you give a fuck about ME, put time into letting me know, cause not everyone would be excited about a museum, and shows you know I would be and actually listen and give a fuck about ME.