Anyone else become sober after their loved one died?

So... my loved one had been drinking when he died. I had given alcohol up for Lent, and I broke that afterwards.

My sibling said they were going to become sober. It has been nearly 2 years, and they have made every excuse in the book. And alcohol is clearly their unhealthy coping mechanism.

I became sober 9 months after the death. Stayed with it for 6 months. I didn't really feel any different being sober or not. After 3 months of imbibing, I have been sober (bc I am now pregnant) for an additional 2.5 months.

I noticed people are really supportive of me being sober- especially around the holidays (I have been saying my therapist suggested a substance-free season for my anxiety). I like going to breweries and bars (as the opportunities will dwindle with an infant) and there are a lot of non-alcoholic alternatives nowadays too.

/r/SuicideBereavement Thread