Anyone else feel really out of place in the queer community?

Maybe they’re just not your people so to speak, it really depends. And as cynical as it sounds, sometimes not giving a fuck about side eyes is the best way to stop them from bothering you

I know that people read me as different, but I don’t let it influence my behavior much. It’s not my job to accommodate for their misguided feelings or to let them drive me out by othering, because I don’t need to force myself to hang out with people who can’t get over themselves and appreciate me as a person after I’ve given them the opportunity. The more I did it, the easier it became

But to clarify, I’m not terribly open about being gay with people who aren’t my friends or friends of friends and I’m stealth as a trans woman with all but a few select people. Even if they have guesses or suspicions, it’s treated as rude to show them here, which I utilize as much as I need to be comfortable, but I do realize that I’m very privileged and none of this is universal

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