Anyone else really tired of June since it has become the Pride Month?

Then fight like hell against it, or towards whatever the next steps your generation views as necessary! We've won a lot of battles in my lifetime, but I'm far from believing the war is over. As a wise man said to me thirty years ago "get pissed, get active, and take charge."

Back in the day, we had to take that term and reclaim it as it was the best path forward (and we really didn't have any other option). It was a very different world where it was necessary to reclaim the language of our oppressors as a matter of survival. For example, I grew up in a literal holler in a dead-end, rust-belt, former coal town (today we'd call it "Meth and/or Opiate Country"). The only representation that existed was overwhelmingly negative and centered around the AIDS crisis. I was very effeminate and GNC which meant the a target was on my back and I paid for it throughout my adolescence (13 broken bones, 8 knocked out teeth, and one 250 yard "f*g drag" down a freshly chip and sealed road). The schools didn't care, the churches didn't care, and the sheriffs didn't care ("provocation" through existence basically). My story was far from unique, and it radicalized us to take ownership of who we were and fight back.

For us, the fight was mostly political and judicial. Non-discrimination ordinances for housing/employment, hate crime protections, civil union/marriage equality, health care access, gender marker changes on gov't documents, removing those against us from office, etc. I was involved in a lot of that legislation (2004-2014ish), and I can promise you very little of it was gained from asking nicely. Progress at that time required radicalization, and it took decades of it for that foundation to be in place. Bostock v. Clayton County was the last domino to fall, but as we've recently learned, stare decisis doesn't hold a lot of water for the Roberts Court.

So when someone like me identifies as a "queer woman" it's because I fought for it. I'm not cisgender, I'm not heterosexual, and I don't have to be in order to be treated fairly under the law. It's also what I mean when I talk about assimilation: the legal rights/protections to live the life that you choose. The fact that two dudes can get married and apply for a mortgage together anywhere in this country outright blows my mind. It was outright unthinkable just a few decades ago!

I wasn't being facetious when I said that arguing about semantics made me happy. It's an incredible amount of progress to have an entire generation be unaware of things like ACT UP, Queer Nation, WHAM!, etc. and other direct-action groups. I feel like a proud mama bear like those before me who shielded/protected us from the atrocities of the AIDS epidemic, Stonewall riots, the Lavender Scare, etc. So I'm not joking when I say teach us, yell at us, and "drive the bus" so to speak. Gen Z has the narrative and most of us will listen!

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