Is anyone else the victim of the "I didn't have this when I was your age, so neither can you" rhetoric?

I guess my mother's mom refused to protect her from sexual advances when she was 12, and my nmom did the same for me. THIS STORY INCLUDES SEXUAL ASSUALT AND MAY TRIGGER SOME SO PLEASE STOP HERE.

When I was 12 my mom's boyfriend commented about my breast development and how big they were getting, and it made me really uncomfortable. Nmom was standing next to him and didn't say anything. Later that day, I complained about the incident to her, she rolled her eyes and said " my mom's boyfriend would comment about me all the time, get over it." So I guess I buried it deep and moved on. When I was 15, I want on a family seadoo trip to a local lake. The trip was with nmom, her now husband, my new "uncle", my boyfriend and me. My new "uncle" insisted I go on the seadoo with him first to teach me how to drive. It didn't feel right but everyone encouraged me to go with him. New uncle and I got on the seadoo and got into the middle of an alligator infested lake where he began to grab my breast and vagina and I told him "not to fucking touch me." I turned the seadoo around and brought it back to shore. I got off the seadoo infront of my family and screamed as loud as I can "DONT YOU EVER FUCKING TOUCH ME AGAIN" and I ran to my nmom. She took me and my boyfriend home, and in the car ride she aggressively asked me what I want to do. I said go to the police. She told me if I did that that they would get a divorce and everyone will hate me. We never made that fucking report. That incident will live with me forever and how I wasnt protected. This may have gotten a little off topic from what happened to her and her childhood compared to mine, but I guess she had a painful childhood so I had to have one too.

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