Yes, very much so among many other reasons. Dad was the drunk, mom was a very put together adult and a surgeon to top it off. When I was little they got divorced and we lived with our dad. She didn't even try to get custody, she wanted to focus on her work I guess. She also was never very "motherly" anyway.

She knew he was drinking but switched between not mentioning it and bitching to us like it was our fault. She also sent child support and knew that he was wasting it away drinking and gambling and whatever else. There was no fucking food in the house! My sister even casually mentioned it to her the other day ("and I never saw a dime of that child support because dad pissed it all away so I think he at least owes me this!") and mom basically just responded like "yeah what a bastard." The mental gymnastics is amazing. How can she not see the role she played in that??

Side note: she got married to another surgeon and now they have a kid. I love my half sister but damn that hurt at first. Suddenly you wanna be a mom?

Sorry I'm rambling. I just think the fact that she totally ignored that situation is fucked. It's honestly crazy because despite all the drinking I still like my dad more than my mom and that is difficult to make sense of.