Has anyone ever questioned if they truly only love their SO as a best friend, rather than also a lover? How did you come to the proper conclusion?

Wow, that gave me goosebumps almost because my story is pretty much the same, except my ex never was out of work but he was so dependant on me and never cleaned the tiny apartment we shared or did his own washing. I even had to remind him to brush his teeth and shower properly - I ADORED him as a soul mate/best friend but lost all sexual desire for him because of certain things he did or how he acted. I felt like his percent or carer sometimes and that obviously impacted on my respect and amount of masculinity I saw in him. I broke it off after a year and a half, I waited about 8 months to do it be used of the guilt (there's more to it; mental health issues etc) and he took it badly and tried to kill himself but that was 2 years ago and he's doing well and has a girlfriend he seems really happy with. But yeah, that's such a difficult one where you realise you love the person as a best mate but not sexually anymore, I've never found a way to bounce back from that and breaking up is my solution sadly

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