anyone experiencing decline in sex life over symptoms and depression?

How much sex do normal people have after nearly 8 years together?

You ARE normal people. Everyone, and every relationship, goes through difficult times in their lives. There's no benchmark for the amount of sex anyone should, or shouldn't be having.

The first few years of our relationship was full of sex. Here there and everywhere. After a few years it waned.

Again, completely normal. The first couple of years of a relationship have an endorphin rush (known as "the love hormone"), as time passes that chemical rush naturally decreases and the relationship settles more into daily life.

yet only ever wants to fuck when she is drunk

You're both feeling crap. You've rejected her often. A bit of liquid let your hair down might not be a bad idea - to get you both over the "it's been a long time and we feel awkward barrier".

but she has hit her limit with it

Yes I've PsA, but my partner suffered deep depression for a few years and it became VERY difficult for me (yes, of course it was VERY difficult for him too!) There were times when I "hit my limit" with it too. Partner has now been over the depression a few years, and has told me that he feels I had every right to "hit my limit".

I don't know if she has any more patience left

She's the only one that can answer that, but if she's in the position I was - she'll be exhausted from supporting you as best she can.

I appreciate what you've written here is just a snapshot, but the complaints you listed are these:

  • The early stage 24/7 sex has stopped
  • She gained weight *You gained weight,
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