Anyone here have low energy and children? How do you do it?

I have a lot of kids. I wear ear pro when they’re all home and I have to do something in a common area. I’ve never told them I’m autistic I just talk around it and explain why I am the way I am in terms of my “personality.”

“Daddy loves you but I need quiet time to feel ok.”

“I need you all know daddy’s tantrum about the laundry had nothing to do with any of you doing anything wrong and everything to do with daddy taking out his mood on others because he doesn’t feel good inside. That was wrong, I apologize.”

The oldest gets it, I think. I think if I try to handle myself with introspection and remind myself they didn’t ask to be here everything will work out ok.

I try really hard to stick to a few rules. If they say “I love you,” I say it right back, immediately and loudly regardless of how or what I’m doing at the moment. If I have a meltdown, I never name call or talk down and I always apologize after and try to communicate how much it’s not anything they did wrong.

Kids are hard on everyone. Give yourself a break. I’m sure you’re probably doing great and your kids are going to turn out wonderful.

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