Me! I’m a new mom and also have a stepson. We waited a long time to have an ours baby so there is a big gap between the 2. Sometimes I feel like I don’t belong in this sub either because my child does technically have a sibling and we do technically have 2 kids living in our house; just not all the time. But my stepson has a capable and present mother and he doesn’t need (or want) 3 parents. I did not feel like a (step)mother, and was never treated like a mother, until I birthed my child. Because of this, I feel like I’m OAD.

I’m not OAD by choice; my husband does not want any more children. I love being a mom and have spent so many years on the sidelines watching my husband be a parent when I wasn’t allowed to participate. I could do the cooking and cleaning, Christmas present shopping and wrapping, remembering of favorite foods, laundry duty, etc., but the fun parts of parenting were reserved for the bio parents. My baby is the light of my life and I am so happy I finally get to experience parenthood with her.