Hey! I was 34-35F and single in SF, only looking for serious monogamous relationships, and I only downloaded one app: Hinge. I went on tons of dates with men 28-42 (I didn’t look for the young ones, they found me). In about 40ish first dates, I was only strongly sexually attracted to 3 of them. I dated one of those three for 6 months, but he turned out to be an alcoholic, I dated another for 2.5 months but called it off because of incompatibilities (he had no hard feelings and is still a friend), and one of them, a 30M, and I connected so well that we deleted our apps on date 5, moved in together this past summer, and are about to hit 1 year together.

I had 0 difficulty finding men wanting relationships. I did a lot of screening before date 1. Do you?

I’m not sure why my experience was so different from yours, but it ever crossed my mind to use a matchmaking service.