3. I want to apologize to a woman that I may have sexually harassed/assaulted.

I want to apologize to a woman that I may have sexually harassed/assaulted.

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In my early 20's I had slept with some woman who were definitely more promiscuous and sexually empowered. I was always upfront about my intentions as were they. Also in my early 20's I attended a semi-formal party. At this semi-formal party, I had begun dancing with a woman. We were grinding on the dance floor and I thought she was sexually attracted to me (perhaps initially, she was). Eventually my penis became erect, as far as I remember we continued to dance/grind. I made the extremely forward and brash move and placing her hand around my penis. I was extremely drunk but also not to the point where I didn't know what I was doing. I know she kept her hand there and didn't suddenly pull it away. But also now looking back, she may have been frozen with fear. I don't remember how we separated but I'm certain it didn't end abruptly. We didn't leave anywhere and our interaction ended with dancing. Later that night I saw her crying at a table, being consoled by a friend. I figured she had drank too much and got sick. A couple years after that I bumped into her at a cottage, we didn't really speak. One thing I do remember about that cottage gathering was the looks her friends were giving me. I should have cleared the air and spoke to her but I cowardly chose not to. This was 10 years ago. I am in a healthy relationship, getting married next Spring. I recently found her on Facebook. She's married and appears to have a beautiful family. I feel awful about what I did and want to let her know it was never my intention to make her comfortable or traumatized. Is it selfish of me to expect reconciliation? Would it give her some peace knowing that it wasn't my intention to be a predator? Would it perhaps make her feel safer with other Men? Is it wrong to reach out to her when it could possibly open old wounds or cause problems within her own family?

TL;DR I most likely traumatized a girl 10 years ago on a dance floor and want to apologize. Is this wrong and/or selfish?

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