Hey thanks a lot for the advice. Many excellent points. I agree about my brother being in denial, although since we've been adults, Dad has been very careful (as far as I know) to be somewhat decent to my brother, especially in the last few years. (Approximately the same amount of time since I began the LC/NC...)

I moved far away when I was 18 and until a year ago, my brother had a very serious drinking problem. So, that I haven't lived there in over ten years, coupled with my brother's drinking, I am not sure that the LC & NC were realized by him as deliberate on my part. And I haven't gone about advertising it. But, any times that some small criticism of dad came up (thinking back a long time ago), my brother was very quick to defend him.

Recently, however, there was a big family issue and my brother and I were discussing dad in general and I just said something like, "Well, you and I have always had different experiences." And it seemed like he was taken aback by it at first (because I think dad's behavior has been a secret shame for the both of us) but didn't try to negate what I said I felt.

You're right about him being old enough to deal with it - that's something I have to remember. I don't know, I guess part of me still thinks of him being 7. My brother has come a long way this year in improving his life, he's been sober for almost a year, and our sibling relationship seems like it is the best it's ever been. So, I am just anxious about it being damaged by all the parental nonsense. Thank you again. I appreciate your words.