Another red flag for us is only ever talking about swinging and sex. We understand the need for privacy, so we don't require details that could easily make you stand out of a crowd, such as what you do for work or where you like to eat, but if they can't talk about anything else, then we might as well just use sex toys or call up already established partners.

We also require phone conversations. Yes, those things people never do anymore. With BOTH parties. My wife will talk to her and I will talk to him. Then sometime later the reverse will happen where he will talk to my wife and his will talk to me. It's not a phone interview, just a plain old conversation. But you'd be surprised at how many are completely uncomfortable with this step, which isn't okay for us. If you can't talk on the phone, you can't talk in person and we simply will not agree to meet. And the number of things you can pick up on by hearing someone's voice in a conversation with yourself are infinite and very useful.

Note this is only for online dating, we have a completely different approach to meeting potential partners in-person encounters such as clubs, parties, cruises, and resorts. But that approach is also very patient and cautious, as is our willingness to attend such events. Single night events without knowing anyone in attendance aren't really our thing. We're pretty much over fucking new people just the once. In our experience, it's the third time that really shines.