Are we destined to fail?

I totally agree and I try to be mindful of this, truly I do. I bite my tongue so often it hurts and I try to put myself in a different area and give him the reins as often as possible. I also strongly believe in risky play and encourage it as often as I can, but some things go beyond risky play to flat out dangerous. Leaving a 2yr old at the lake’s edge completely unattended, for example. Or our 1yr old sitting alone next to a roaring, open fire pit, and then seeing no issue when I want to address these situations makes me feel totally rattled. Another example is not taking my concerns about his parents dog seriously, and ultimately the large dog tried to but our child and would have had I not been right there to prevent it. When it comes to simple tasks I’ve learned to shut up to keep the peace and that some things don’t have a “right way” necessarily…. But some things do. How many times do I have to tell him I feel unsafe when he texts and drives? Is that something I should allow? What about leaving the car seat harness so loose my daughters arms were completely out after returning home? Should I allow poor brushing of teeth on the nights it’s his job? Or not brushing their hair so it’s a rats nest the next day? It’s been 3 years and we are still reviewing car seat safety…. It feels more serious than “clean the kitchen this way”.

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