Are the following traits a realistic portrayal of high-functioning autism in girls?

I think what you may have run up against with your first edit may be directly relevant to the topic at hand/your question: implicit vs. explicit communication preferences is one of the places that often differs between autistic and non-autistic folks, though how pronounced that difference is varies a ton.

In my experience both likely being on the line between autistic and not, and also definitely not being neurotypocal in other ways; and working with coworkers and being friends with multiple people who lean quite a bit further in the autistic direction than I do: learning to code shift toward more explicit and direct communication can be super helpful; and also generally appreciated, as typically it’s the neurdivegent person (regardless of flavor of said neorodivergence) who is expected to/forced into doing the code shifting.

(I actively code shift both directions on implicit/explicit communication, with various degrees of success and frustration. I pick up on subtext easily - possibly too easily - but it’s largely intellectual, and conscious, and also often isn’t the subtext the person thinks they are sending… at all (though that doesn’t mean I’m wrong about what I am picking up), unlike how it would likely be for someone who was truly neurotypical. I also pretzel myself in response to it if the stakes are high, so it can seriously stress me out. For these reasons I vastly prefer direct communication on any interpersonal topic. And also, I communicate things implicitly quite a bit, and have to catch myself sometimes in that, depending on who I’m communicating with.)

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