And here is the top response to her Poorly argued position.
Judging by the top answers which are quoting statistics out of context and miss the point by asking for documentaries on "UK's" and "USA's" daughter, I believe this question warrants the same answer as I gave in "Why are there so many rapes in India" almost half a year ago, let me repost that here:
It is because we refuse to admit it when there is one! The top answer goes on a long diatribe trying to "prove" the point by comparing it with a country with an even more number of rapes - just great! It refuses to even acknowledge that a vast majority of rapes go unreported in our country.
The ‘Study on Child Abuse India 2007’ revealed that more than 53% of children in India have probably been sexually abused and many have never shared the fact of this abuse with anyone. It is estimated that 150 million girls and 73 million boys under 18 have been subjected to forced sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual violence. Hey, maybe that's a fabrication by "western people" to "spoil our image"? Oh it was conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child Development (MWCD) in India? Never mind: out of sight, out of mind, right?
The fact is "MORE than 90% of the rapes do go unreported in India". “So, you got raped by your uncle? I’ll just ask him to pay for the abortion if you get pregnant and you can go back to work tomorrow. We haven’t eaten rice in three days.”
That was a response Promila got from her mother when she walked up to her one morning and told her she was raped and impregnated.
“We don’t complain against our uncles. They’re family and it’s against the rules,” said Promila when I asked her why she wasn’t seeking legal help.
She left me thinking. In a country as culturally and ethnically rich as India, we’re asked to abide by cultural norms or “rules” as we call them. Does that mean an uncle isn’t a rapist? Does that excuse you from the truth that you’ve been raped? Absolutely not.
Promila resumed her work the next morning. She washed clothes and she ran daily chores at my neighbor’s house. I watched her turn into a recluse who never spoke to anyone.
I called the police station one morning.
“We have no records for anyone under that name, Ma’am,” the officer told me over the phone. “No one exists by the name of Promila Das.”
How can you say you’ve been raped when you don’t even exist?
Oh look at Sweden, USA and Finland! They look much worse than India, they say! It's because the "definition" of rape varies widely from country to country. In Sweden, what matters is only that a women said "no", she might have given him a strip tease, a BJ and rubbed her naked groin against you, but if she says no and you proceed to do the deed - rape conviction.
Meanwhile in India, marital rape is not even considered as a crime! This places India in the company of a handful of reputable countries including China, Afghanistan, Pakistan and Saudi Arabia. Do you think even if we change the law- any Indian women would dare to complain if her husband rapes her everyday?
In fact the issue of "marital rape" was brought in front of our esteemed law-makers, who rejected it in a report which argued:
it “has the potential of destroying the institution of marriage,”
“If marital rape is brought under the law, the entire family system will be under great stress,” adds the report.
Why India Allows Men to Rape Their Wives - India Real Time - WSJ
"A new study has revealed 26 per cent of women in Pune, 23 per cent in Bhubaneswar and 16 per cent in Jaipur often have sex with husbands against their desire."
That's almost one in four married women being raped by their own husbands often - in cities, imagine the villages!
Marital rape is an ugly reality
Yes, we will never acknowledge it as rape, since rape is such an integral part of marriage right? Does it make any sense to compare statistics when the definitions are so different? I don't think so!
So just because it was on the news for a few days our mindset and culture has changed- everyone is taking it seriously now? Say that to the people of this village: Village defends Bengal gang-rape accused - The Times of India
Rape will be a problem and will remain a problem as long as we try to cover it up. Are girls any safer on our streets now? Does your sister, mother or daughter feel comfortable going out at night wearing whatever she likes? Have you been abroad? Have you ever felt how different you feel when walk with/as a girl outside India? We are nowhere close to that standard when it comes to safety for women.
If food is rotten in your house, will you just cover it up, spray some perfume and proclaim everything is good? Of course not. Let's acknowledge the problem and throw it out instead of blaming the "Western Media" of "fabricating a rape-crisis"!
PS: I agree that the problem of "shaming and projecting a bad image" is also quite real, but it is much smaller compared to the REAL issue at hand. It's like my child is very sick and needs me, and I am outside fighting the kids who are teasing him about his sickness.
PPS: Is someone here actually claiming that pornography causes rape?! Yeah lets repress our sexuality even more- that's going to work right?