why are lesbians not attracted to me in a romantic way?

You could do a couple of simple things to improve your profile now in these areas.

  1. Some people take workout selfies, and that could come across as douchy. But, if you have a friend take 1-2 action shots of you rock climbing or cycling or something that looks fun, that could make you look fun and active vs. just some plain boring pics of you sitting on a couch in drab lighting. It's okay if these aren't face shots because you have those boring ones already. If you don't have full-body shots yet, I recommend taking some action shots to show off your hard work.

  2. A lot of people will swipe left if the profile is completely blank. You don't have to write much. Even writing a short sentence stating that you prefer to get to know people in person and you'd rather limit texting at first will help people know that they won't be wasting time by swiping right with you. I'd recommend listing a couple of social things that you enjoy doing that are easy first date activities, too, so you can know if you share common ground (i.e., coffee, hiking, etc.) Some people state that they only like video games and watching movies... it's tough to get to know those people if that's all they want to do, so just be careful how you advertise yourself to others.

Hope this helps. The other thing I'd recommend is to start meeting people via LGBT meetups. Online dating is so superficial and exhausting that people might not give you a shot based on first appearances. But, if you can get to know a group of people in a safe environment over time, perhaps your personality will shine through. At the very least, you could make some new friends.

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