I'm on the side of not everything counts, and I'll try to explain my logic. There is absolutely a bar in everything, otherwise you can't categorize things. A man respectfully ordering an item off a menu from a waitress is not sexual harassment. If the waitress declares that sexual harassment, it is not. There has to be something to point to. Him making an inappropriate comment, or touching, or something. That means that the existence of a bar is there, somewhere.

I don't think suffering is irrelevant if you don't cross the threshold, but I do think that it's more on your shoulders than the "attackers" if it doesn't cross that threshold. I think it's hazardous to take the self-professed victims side in every accusation. Simply saying you've been a victim of sexual harassment doesn't make you one.

Here's another way to look at it. Imagine #metoo was started by minorities and it represented people who had suffered prejudice by police officers. If the range of that was "the cop gave me a ticket" to "the cop shot my boyfriend while he was laying on his stomach" it becomes difficult to quantify the scale of the problem.

I'll probably get downvoted and bashed for this, but I dunno. I feel like everyone is out to be a victim in society, and it makes it harder to take things seriously when people can find plenty examples of the "the cop gave me a ticket" scenario to write off the more serious ones.