Are people in MBTI forum, unwillingly exaggerating their tendency to fits descriptions?

I tend to go the opposite way and end up being a massive douchenozzle online.

On the one hand, I definitely am conscious of wanting people to see the [INFJ] tag used for something other than self-congratulation on what sensitive and misunderstood fallen angels we all are. On the other hand, I actually am a massive douchenozzle so all I need to do to fuck the system, so to speak, is be myself. Of course the chances of my conduct chipping away at any of the stereotypes are slim to none, as anyone who notices the tag will probably just assume I'm yet another mistype.

There is an insight I'd like to express on the subject of the stereotypes, but I've not shared it up til now because I'm not entirely sure how to explain it, as is often the case with intuition, but I'm reasonably certain that the subreddits of the popular (uncommon) types are comprised to a large extent by people who do not embody the type, but aspire toward the stereotype.

To put it more clearly, the subreddits for the strong, independent thinkers tend to be full of hiveminded wannabes who believe they are independent thinkers, but actually they are the bane of the actual independent thinker's existence. Likewise, the most sensitive types are outnumbered by people who loudly proclaim that they are sensitive but could more accurately be described as insensitive and what they think is empathy is actually a kind of emotional abuse by the standards of the true sensitive.

This is very difficult for me to explain but someone must get what I'm talking about. It reminds me of a certain kind of situation I've found myself in at random points in my life that always has left me feeling particularly distraught, where there's someone emulating a value that you hold dear and doing it in such an unnatural and profane way that you can't believe what you're seeing. The amazing thing is that they actually view you as holding values contrary to whatever they're emulating, for example being called insensitive by someone who thinks they are sensitive but really aren't, or being called a liar by someone who is a liar but thinks they're not because they use doublethink.

That sloppy explanation is close to my experience of the MBTI community, the Internet in general and, unfortunately, the world at large. I sometimes feel like Jack Skellington watching helplessly as everyone destroys Christmas, over and over again.

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