Honestly, it took experience in relationships to discover what was right for me. I'm in my 30's now and have only ever romantically loved two of my partners. I've dated plenty of people but once I realized no amount of dating was going to make me "fall in love" with the other person I had to call it off. I've had a lot of hard conversations with people and have had many people insist "you need to give me a chance" but I'm glad I didn't force myself to stay in a dating relationship that didn't feel right to me because it was expected or because I was too afraid of hurting someone's feelings. I guess my best advice is to stay curious and open to new experiences and meeting people. Also, through dating different people and figuring out what wasn't "right" for me definitely helped when I did finally meet a person who "clicked" because I could compare my feelings toward my partner to previous relationships that didn't "feel right". Don't be afraid to try dating or to put yourself out there but also stay true to yourself and communicate honestly.