If you haven't found any of us in 5 years of trying, you're probably going about something in the wrong way.

I did make an assumption, but I predicated my "you're dong something wrong" on that assumption being true. That's what the word "if" means.

Your if statement is about her not finding guys who want something long term. Your probably statement is about it being her fault.

You're the one who decided that when the OP said one thing.

I didn't decide anything. I just knew there was a chance she meant what I meant. Maybe she truly means she hasn't ever spoken to a man who was anything long term. The difference is that you answered her question as if you knew you were correct, and blamed her.

But you know what? Guys get cheated on too. Guys get lied to too. It's not a gender issue. Why make it one?

Where. Did. I. Ever. Say. It. Was. A. Gender. Issue? I only date men, so, presumably, the only people I've dated who've lied to me were men. And I was only talking about my experiences.

I don't anticipate responding to anything else you have to say on this matter.

Sooo... guess you don't actually have any evidence of me blaming the male population for my recent dating woes, or examples of me not looking for men in the right places, or anything to explain why you think I'm doing enough to make sure I'm only dating men who want something long term.

Yeah, you apologized, then told me in the next breath it was likely my fault those things happened to me. Which kind of cancels out you feeling bad for me. It went from, "I'm sorry those men put you through that," to "I'm sorry you're such an idiot at dating that you made choices that resulted in guys treating you this way. Do better next time."