I don’t think either one is right or wrong. Individually it can feel like one or the other, but it doesn’t have to.

I’ve never been into hookup culture-I’m not sure if this is because it was before my time. BUT I was a serial dater. And men have always wanted me for one thing. My body. What I can do for them. It’s been a long healing road of trauma and acceptance over this.

I just naturally assumed that this is the way relationships were, or how my life was going to be.

I’m pretty liberal, and share a huge diverse group of friends.

Only 2 were virgins until married.

A couple of my friends have such a giant list of expectations, that it’s narrowed their dating pool to nothing-and when they get a date, they find something wrong immediately.

I have quite a few lgbt friends. I’ve noticed they’re all pretty similar for views on sex. Open and carefree.

I have ONE friend who is a swinger with her partner. Her life is really messy and I have to wonder if it’s because of her lifestyle, or she does this lifestyle because it’s a distraction from everything else.

One thing I will say, is people who always talk about sex, find ways to bring it up, always making sexual innuendos, always flirting-even in professional environments, are the worst lays (read: selfish lovers) and generally shitty ppl. Just my take. There’s so much more to life than sex, and I truly cannot imagine having a mind that is laser focused on it 24/7. Seems like such a waste to me.