Asexual? Amorphous? Help

I don't know how much I could help but here goes. I'm an asexual as well, as far as people go that is. I do not find people attractive or arousing at all. Or genutals of any kind. I'm only attracted to stuffed animals. when it comes to stuffed animals, suddenly I have a hyper sex drive. And like you, when I had sex, I could only get aroused when thinking about stuffed animals, it's not a zoophile thing either, like humans, I find real animals unattractive as well.

Anyway, I met a guy, and he was really into me, he tried explaining to me, that what I felt for my big teddy bear, he felt for me. Well, I realized that's very harmful and unfair to him. Because my bear is at the end of the day, an inanimate object that can take on whatever role I want to project into it. This guy however, was seeking love from me, someone who wasn't attracted to him. I liked him, I wanted him to be happy, but what he wants, is something I can not give him. And he understood. It was who I am, and he didn't want to pressure me into things I didn't like.

So where do you fit in all this? Well, you two would have to be together over other things than sex. Me and that guy could still remain friends over pot smoking and painting, but if he's looking for sex, he's gonna have to go somewhere else for it. Or you could keep trying, did, I had plushies involved, and little specific kinks involved when I tried it. But in the end I kept looking around realizing that I didn't need him to be there, I was doing my own thing, this guy is just trying to be involved in it, but I didn't really want him there. And that wasn't cool, since he could only get off if he made contact with me. And I couldn't be what he desired

In conclusion. Looks like I'm staying single, but you have to be honest with your guy, your sexuality is your sexuality, you can keep experimenting, but you can't really change the foundation of it. Good luck.

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