asexual guys?

M 45. I've had a shitload of sex with many partners. Sex isn't great for me and never has been, but kink can make it fun, and you can't beat the intimacy from physical contact. I haven't had sex in years, and I don't look for it anymore. I've had many LTR but I always enjoy being single more so I have embraced fully being aro. In retrospect I have been these things all along but I have dated fantastic women through my life and I would never take that away so that I could have come out sooner.

Many people derive some kind of validation from sexual desire. Over the years of relationships I found that I meshed best with a partner who was easy to satisfy, because it's fun for me to get them off, and because if they were waiting for me, they wouldn't get what they wanted. My last partner understood that she needed to be selfish and so it worked out for both of us. In the end it's still an effort on my part because I can get all of my intimacy needs fulfilled by just snuggling for a bit.

Some examples I can depict are having sexual dreams then waking up with a hard one. Kissing your partner but not having any sexual desire to do more.

I got very good at avoiding doing things that could be construed as a sexual advance.

Contrary to what you think, women are just as horny as men, and likely more so as they get older. As guys get older it's harder to maintain an erection and come to climax.

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