I 100% agree. I was married to the same for 8 years and it was hell on earth. You don’t realize you get stuck in these “it’s fine because this episode was because of (enter example)” or “he just needs medication and that will stop the lies, psychotic episodes, etc etc”.

I’m going to tell you what my therapist told me all these years ago that finally woke me up and allowed me to get free. You sound like a very smart woman. No amount of time, medication, or therapy will ever make your husband the way you knew him. Nothing will ever be the same and moving forward it will only get worse. You may see a glimmer of hope where you can talk to that person...if only for a moment...but you’ll be heartbroken each time it passes. It’s fleeting. Raising children around that is not healthy and they will grow up with learned negative behaviors from him. All people do that but most people have a better chance by not having a destructive parent to learn from. Monkey see...monkey do.

So just ask yourself “is this the right thing to do?” Go from there but please for the sake of everything go get tested for std’s. He’s putting your life in danger!!