I have a much wilder sexual past than my husband does, and I actually used to work as a stripper when I was younger. Even after my sex worker days all my exes were hungry in a way I loved. I really enjoyed that line of work and found it very validating. I know it's shallow but standing up on a platform naked while the crowd goes wild and throws their week's pay at you feels damn good. Going from that to sleeping back to back every night is just depressing. Nowadays after a lifetime of craziness I value stability and kindness more than anything, but my husband is just not a sexual person. Honestly I don't think we were ever super hot for each other. We were just both ready to get married after living chaotic lives and wanted to settle down.