I would try marriage counseling for sure.

I’m not telling you to get divorced, but that seems to be your only way out of the situation if the counseling doesn’t work.

Just some food for thought - both of my parents are strict Catholics, and both of them have been through two divorces prior to marrying each other. My parents always said you shouldn’t force something that obviously isn’t working, and if you love someone sometimes you just need to let them go. People grow and change throughout marriage, and that’s totally OK if years into the marriage you aren’t meant for each other anymore. But the most important advice I’ve gotten from their failed marriages, is that the Catholic/Christian attitude towards divorce is seriously outdated. At the end of the day, God would want you to be happy. Nothing wrong with saying this didn’t work, and moving forward with your life. What would make it wrong would be infidelity or being vindictive/mean spirited about the splitting.

I wish you the best of luck, and highly recommend trying counseling if that is something you think is worth trying.