I’d try to broach sexual topics with her and hint at me having a high body count as a way to show that I’m not judgemental about women with high notch counts(even though I am). Then she might ask me, which they often do and I’ll tell them is over 100. Then they’re a bit more comfortable with me asking them their body count. I would then add 2 guys for every breakup she’s had. If she doesn’t ask me for my notch count, I’ll ask her (this is after talking about sex and probs after we’ve fucked) and she’ll probs get defensive and I’d nonchalantly say “I think everyone is sexual. My count is over 100; I’m not one of those guys that shame women”. If I hear anything over 20, I’m gone lol.